Resources

Web Sites

www.nhdivorce.com
Answers many questions regarding the legal process of divorce in NH.

www.mediate.com
Locate a mediator in other parts of the country or state.

www.nafcm.org
A list of programs throughout the country where trained volunteers provide mediation services for family issues, regardless of your ability to pay.

www.divorcesource.com
Provides relevant information, services and worksheets on state by state basis.

www.healthyparent.com
For practical co-parenting resources, Dr. Benjamin Garber, Ph.D. in Merrimack, NH.

Books

Divorce

The New Hampshire Divorce Handbook
Atty. Honey Hastings (also a mediator), 1999, Amoskeag Press, $19
An excellent reference book by one of the state's leading attorneys explaining the divorce process in plain English.

The Pro Se Divorce Handbook
NH Pro Bono Referral System, Concord, NH,  (603- 224-6942), $30
Provides information, forms and worksheets for a simple, uncomplicated divorce in NH.

A Guide to Divorce Mediation: How to Reach a Fair, Legal Settlement at a Fraction of the Cost
G. Friedman, Workman Publishing, 1993, $12.95
This book presents a truly inside view of the mediation process, to help couples make the decision to mediate, to understand the ground rules and context, and to learn to select a good mediator.

Healthy Divorce
C. Everett & S. Volgy Everett, Jossey-Bass Inc., 1994, $25
This book explores ways of confronting such difficult issues as how to tell your children you are getting a divorce, how to plan a separation, and how to cope with your feelings of anger, grief, and abandonment.

Crazy Times: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life
A. Trafford, Harper Perennial, 1992, $12
This book is a personal road map and step-by-step guide to understanding predictable emotional passages of men and women after a marriage ends.

Between Love and Hate: A Guide to Civilized Divorce
Lois Gold, Penguin Books, 1995, $13.95
The book address legal, financial, and emotional issues during and after the divorcing process.

Getting Apart Together, (The Couple's Guide to a Fair Divorce or Separation)
Martin Kranitz, Impact Publishers, 1987, $8.95
A comprehensive self-help guide for separating couples who want to negotiate their own settlements.

Divorcing with Dignity. Mediation: The Sensible Alternative
Tim Emerick-Cayton, Westminster Press, 1993
A practical guide for a Christian divorce.

Parenting Through Divorce -- And After

Mom's House, Dad's House: Making Shared Custody Work
I. Ricci, Collier Books, 2000, $15
The book details the principles of two home parenting, gives an overview of custody laws, and proceeds to tell parents in much detail how to set up a joint custody arrangement.

The Co-Parent's Companion: Strategies for Cooperative Caregiving
Benjamin Garber, 2003, $10
Practical Parenting Resources (603-879-9100) or www.healthyparent.com.

Caught in the Middle: Protecting the Children of High-Conflict Divorce
C. Garrity & M. Baris, Jossey-Bass Inc., 1994, $19.95
The book examines the causes and consequences of parental conflict and offers concrete advice to make co-parenting work, even in high conflict divorce.

Child Custody: Building Agreements That Work
Mimi Lyster, Nolo Press, 1995, $24.95
This book offers real world solutions to parenting issues.  It provides a number of worksheets which may be used in developing a parental agreement.

The Children's Book...For the Sake of the Children
M & S Erickson, CPI Publications, 1992, $7.95
This book organizes information pertinent to the children in one notebook which is exchanged between parents during transfers.

Families Apart: Ten Keys to Successful Co-Parenting
Melinda Blau, Perigree Books, 1994, $12
Structured around ten principles of successful co-parenting, this book describes the tasks, attitudes, and communications skills that are required to move the family through all the transitions and events that continue to bring parents together in their children's lives.

The Divorced Parent
Stephanie Marston, 1994, $10
A prescriptive guide to raising happy, healthy children in the wake of divorce.

The Good Divorce: Keeping Your Family Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart
C. Ahrons, Harper Perennial, 1994, $13
The book focuses on what we can learn from families that divorce but maintain strong family bonds.

How It Feels When Parents Divorce
J. Krementz, Alfred Knopf, 1994, $14
This book, written for children of divorce, is based on interviews of children and uses their own words to present the pain and resilience of children going through divorce.

Mediation And Conflict Resolution

Getting to Yes
R. Fisher, W. Ury, B. Paton, Penguin Books, 1981, $11.95
This offers a practical, universally applicable approach for coming to mutually acceptable agreements in disputes ranging from domestic conflict, business disputes, and international tensions.

Getting Past No William Ury, Bantam Books, 1991, $10.95
This book offers strategies for dealing with someone who is angry, unreasonable, deceitful, or stubborn and does not want to negotiate.

Other Resources

The Family Center of Greater Peterborough,
offering play groups, parenting classes and support groups for single parents. The Family Center is commited to strengthening families and communities through parent education and family support programs (924-6306).